As a parent, I’ve often found myself reflecting on the age-old adage, “sharing is caring.” However, I’ve come to realise that enforcing sharing among my children is not always the best approach. For one, it can lead to resentment and conflict rather than the camaraderie we desire. When I make them share, I’m inadvertently teaching them to give up something they’re enjoying, which can create a sense of obligation rather than generosity.

Instead, I encourage them to communicate their feelings and negotiate with one another. This fosters an understanding of boundaries and helps them develop their social skills. It’s important for kids to learn that it’s perfectly acceptable to say “no” sometimes and to set limits on their belongings. I want them to cultivate a sense of ownership, not just over toys but over their feelings, too. Ultimately, I believe that mutual respect and understanding are far more valuable lessons than the mere act of sharing itself.