Raising children who exhibit entitlement and spoiled behaviour often stems from certain parenting practices. Here are seven key behaviours that may contribute to this outcome:

1. Overindulgence: Parents may consistently give in to their children's desires, whether it's excessive gifts or freedom, teaching them that they are always deserving of more without the need for effort.

2. Lack of Boundaries: In an attempt to be friends with their children, some parents fail to establish clear rules and consequences, leading children to believe they can manipulate situations to their advantage.

3. Excessive Praise: Overvaluing every small achievement can inflate a child’s self-esteem to the point where they expect recognition for everything they do, regardless of effort or merit.

4. Minimising Consequences: Shielding children from failure or disappointment can foster a sense of entitlement, as they learn they are not responsible for their actions and can avoid accountability.

5. Comparative Parenting: Parents who constantly compare their children to peers, often in a competitive manner, may unintentionally instil a sense of superiority and entitlement to privileges.

6. Failure to Teach Gratitude: Neglecting to instil the importance of appreciation for what they have can lead children to take their privileges for granted, thus fostering an attitude of entitlement.

7. Inconsistent Discipline: A lack of consistency in rules and consequences fosters confusion and a sense of unfairness, leading children to believe they can negotiate their way out of responsibilities.

These behaviours, while often well-intentioned, can create a mindset in children that prioritises self-interest over empathy and accountability, hampering their development into well-adjusted adults.

As a parent, I’ve often found myself reflecting on the age-old adage, “sharing is caring.” However, I’ve come to realise that enforcing sharing among my children is not always the best approach. For one, it can lead to resentment and conflict rather than the camaraderie we desire. When I make them share, I’m inadvertently teaching them to give up something they’re enjoying, which can create a sense of obligation rather than generosity.

Instead, I encourage them to communicate their feelings and negotiate with one another. This fosters an understanding of boundaries and helps them develop their social skills. It’s important for kids to learn that it’s perfectly acceptable to say “no” sometimes and to set limits on their belongings. I want them to cultivate a sense of ownership, not just over toys but over their feelings, too. Ultimately, I believe that mutual respect and understanding are far more valuable lessons than the mere act of sharing itself.